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"PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES"

(THE SECRET TO THE GOLDEN RULE)


"Treat People the Way You Want To Be Treated" Although this rule has been posted on the wall of almost every school it has become sadly apparent that many kids today have a hard time following it. Despite the fact that almost every student knows "The Golden Rule" by heart, they just don't get it as they continue to hurt each other with the teasing, fighting and bullying. We feel the solution lies in students understanding each other. The "secret" is that empathy activates the "The Golden Rule".

Joe Trionfero, of Show of Love Assemblies, has developed his own three-step consideration process that will help to create this better understanding of one another, thus stopping the hurt before it starts. The one hour presentation teaches empathy and communication skills combined with the importance of responsibility. It is called:

"Put Yourself in Their Shoes"
This three-step process teaches "the impulsive kid" how to stop and think before they act or react. By considering FEELINGS, TIMING and TONE, the student is afforded the time needed to delay their natural response, which is to react quickly and without thought. So often the reason a senseless "act of violence" is senseless, is because it is the result of a simple misunderstanding or a mere lack of consideration. This practical and systematic formula equips students with a "consideration skill set" that, combined with a dose of responsibility, can help them to stop their hurtful and destructive behavior. The three step process helps to develop a positive and lasting habit.

How do we do it?
"Put Yourself in Their Shoes" is creative, entertaining and effective as it uses short audio sound bites of famous characters of classic "family" movies to help kids better understand FEELINGS, TONE and TIMING. These "kids' movies" are the ones most often played in the average American household and only appropriate audio segments are used. Because these movies have been seen or overheard dozens of times by students of all ages (as well as their teachers and parents) almost everyone is very familiar with these characters, their situations and their "animated" feelings. This familiarity is utilized as we challenge students, in three different segments to identify or model the feelings, tone or timing used or displayed by these characters. The trademark styles of Show of Love Presentations, which are fun, participation and competition, are all combined with "audition style "skits and role plays in a contest format. Throughout the presentation we stress the importance of listening skills and the role they play to help us understand one another. By teaching children how to listen with their ears, eyes and hearts we are in fact showing them how to be considerate, the true secret to the Golden Rule.



"PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES"

(A THREE STEP CONSIDERATION PROCESS TO STOP THE HURT)




YOU HAVE CHOICES



Feelings stop and consider….
 
What: What does the person feel?
Why: Why do they feel that way?
How: How did it feel when it happened to you?
 
 
Timing stop and consider….
 
Never: Let it go it's not worth mentioning
Later: It can wait until another time
Now: It needs to be addressed now
 
 
Tone stop and consider….
 
Nice: Use kindness in your voice
Civil: A minimum requirement of respect
Growl: Only used for danger or extreme importance


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